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How I can overcome this?
I have had the advice for years, read books, make daily medication, etc — but I feel I can not overcome the abuse of my childhood. I have 35, you are about to ruin my marriage. — I have trust issues and any form of counseling seems to help me. — In particular I've had several directors in different years, even a civil 20yr expert advisor. So did six months in a group of children of alcoholics. Read everybook known to man, NLP, acupuncture, et.c the list goes on. It's so hard to learn to have no shame and love myself — but the behavior of the fight against co-dependent, and allow it to be just who is — without parental expectations of him to "save" me when I feel depressed, his is killing us. Please – by Please anyone if something — — — a book, thought, the technique has worked for you — let me know. Desperate – Thanks.
You know, I fully to get what you are talking. I had an abusive childhood and took me along a very bad for a very long time, myself included development of all types of self-destructive behavior including an eating disorder and alcoholism. Even after I put these behaviors after me, the thought remained. I also spent years in 12-step programs (which crashingly useless), saw the therapists, daily, had an EMDR, and read every damn self-help books addiction and codependency. And nothing helped for a very long time, I got to where I thought I would never feel better. But I'm better now. In fact better and does not deceive me. Here's how it worked for me: 1. I decided best for me, not my marriage. I found a person who really advisor confidence and kept me anything it. My husband and I saw a marriage counselor too, but ended up leaving my husband in the final. I am NOT saying that this would be the outcome, but it was mine. 2. I were willing to feel any pain he had to feel to reach beyond my control and healing road. I thought even if the pain is killing me, it would be better than where I was. And so I felt and spoke of things very, very hard. Talk is easy. Feeling it was not. 3 I began to treat myself well, although he felt weird and wrong to do it at first. I learned to defend myself. "I learned to stop worrying about what others thought. 4. I continued this … and do it …. and makes … until finally felt good, "Normal." 5. I finished therapy and stayed on my feet. 6. Now I have 50 years of age, 12 years sober got remarried and happier than I ever have been. Just my own experience, but I would say that in my case, fear of pain was my biggest obstacle. To the Finally, I learned that the pain of healing is not going to kill me, although the pain may stay sick. Hope this helps, even a little.
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